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Sorry, LJ. It's been forever. I haven't posted here in a long time because Facebook is so EASY and this seems like more of a commitment.

Moved to tacoma, bought a house, got married, Elder kid moved out, younger kid is gay and dating a trans girl, and the cat and dog are still assholes.

Currently working on lots of crochet projects on the bus/train ride to and from work. I made a shitton of dragon gloves and sent them to friends for christmas. I have a long queue so it will probably be after xmas when I finish all of them. In the queue, Hat for Andy (at work), Squid Hat for Tim, Dragon gloves for Tim and Danny's girlfriend Riley.

Here's something meaty:
I drink too much. I should probably stop. I think I will go dry in January and if I'm not able to do it, I am going to seek help. Probably not AA because I don't get into the whole god thing but maybe.

I would really love to be able to drink sometimes, I'm not ready to give it up completely but I might have to. In Finland they have a drug that blocks the dopamine response so it makes drinking less enjoyable, but isn't the stuff that makes you throw up.

Job: It's great, I am usually busy and I have a lot to do. A couple people above me left (Software Dev Manager and Product Manager) so I've been asking for title change since I am effectively scrum master and Software Dev manager and also QA supervisor. I want the MANAGER title. I don't care about the raise. The office would be nice. We'll see if I get it.

Love life: Wonderful as always although I pissed off Tim this morning when I made a hand signal as he was running a red light. I think he forgave me.

I think I need to listen to more music and watch less TV. 

Date: 2016-12-19 06:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] apestyle.livejournal.com
To be clear, we'e still married. She didn't remarry someone else.

Date: 2016-12-19 09:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sistawendy.livejournal.com
Good to see you back!

younger kid is gay and dating a trans girl

Hmm. He's either not a homo or he's not treating her very well at all. Trans girls are girls.

Probably not AA

Good call. Their success rate is something like 60%.

I think I need to listen to more music and watch less TV.

I think that's true of pretty much everybody.

Date: 2016-12-19 09:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] princessgeek.livejournal.com
I thought it was strange that he was dating a girl too. And then I asked if we needed to have the "protection" talk and he said no, she doesn't have a uterus, mom.

Trying not to be upset about "he's not treating her very well". I mean, if they want to date each other and they are happy, who cares?

Date: 2016-12-20 07:33 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] apestyle.livejournal.com
Danny is treating his girlfriend very well from what I can tell. That's a weird judgement.

Date: 2016-12-20 02:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sistawendy.livejournal.com
Being in a relationship with somebody who doesn't really want to relate to me as a woman would be a horrible experience for me. I hope that isn't what's happening to that girl.

Date: 2016-12-20 06:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] apestyle.livejournal.com
But that's not what happened.

Danny: "Well at first I thought she was a guy? But then I found out that she was a girl, and it turned out that I was okay with that."

Okay, so not mindblowing with the verbiage, but that's how he feels. I think you made some assumptions that were unfair.

Date: 2016-12-20 06:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] princessgeek.livejournal.com
Yeah, sorry I wasn't clear enough and caused confusion.

Date: 2016-12-20 04:28 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] thetar.livejournal.com
Nice to see you hear. I support you in finding what you need. Also your pink penis scraf was tots amazeballs.

Date: 2016-12-24 11:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] labelleizzy.livejournal.com
hi, new friend via the #2017Revival...
I dried out for a year between birthdays 39 and 40. Wrote a bit about it, and happy to talk about it if you like.
it's good to know why we drink and stay conscious of it.

Date: 2016-12-25 02:28 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] brittdreams.livejournal.com
Not a new friend of yours but totally curious about this, mostly because I don't think I can do it.

Date: 2016-12-28 04:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] princessgeek.livejournal.com
Well, if I can't do it, I guess I"ll have to seek help. So I hope it doesn't come to that. There's a drug they use in Finland that blocks the dopamine receptors and it takes the fun out of it. I wish they had that here. I mean they do have it, but good luck getting a doc to prescribe it.

Date: 2016-12-28 11:33 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] brittdreams.livejournal.com
No, that makes sense. I'm like you in that I like to have a glass of wine or a beer with/after dinner. Plus, pretty much all the socializing I do in Smallville involves either drinks, dinner out, or both, which isn't particularly good for my health. I'm not going to abstain completely from drinking for a month, at least not in January, but will be more careful about how much, when, and why I'm drinking. My goal is to stop drinking out of boredom and to limit myself to no more than two in a night and five in a week when I do drink.

Date: 2016-12-26 02:30 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tommx.livejournal.com
I relate to the "drink too much but not wanting to give it up completely" thing. I too am going dry in January partly to get out of the habit of drinking on a daily basis, but also because I want to lose weight and get back to regular exercise.

Just thought you'd like to know you're not the only one struggling with this.

There's an App for that

Date: 2016-12-28 04:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] princessgeek.livejournal.com
There actually is an app and apparently Dry January is a *thing* in the UK. Who knew? Anyway, I'm hoping I can make it. My mom gave me a case of wine for Christmas. But it's all Chardonnay. UGH. I think it was a cruel joke.

Re: There's an App for that

Date: 2016-12-28 04:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tommx.livejournal.com
Yeah, the big temptation for me tends to be during hockey games and happy hours. My solution to both is basically to avoid the latter, and just stick with water at the former. At this point, it's less an "I want to be healthier" thing so much as an "I've been overdoing it and the heartburn I've been feeling is a clear message that I need to slow the fuck down". Also, it's easier to run in the morning when you're not hung over.

Re: There's an App for that

Date: 2016-12-28 05:10 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] princessgeek.livejournal.com
Yeah mine is just when I get home from work I want to relax and I have a glass of wine that turns into a bottle of wine. My husband doesn't drink so maybe I should just not go to the store for all of January! ha! I can order groceries online.

I don't run because I'm fat, but I think I might join OrangeTheory for a bit to see if that works for me. I have to be forced to exercise and classes seem to help. We have a big 10 day vacation in st. Lucia in February and I'd like to at least be able to not get winded going up a flight of stairs. Actually I don't get winded going up a flight of stairs now, but you know what I mean. I almost finished a couch to 5K once, but it's too cold out to do that now. Maybe in the spring.

Re: There's an App for that

Date: 2016-12-28 06:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tommx.livejournal.com
The last time I lost a significant amount of weight, I basically did 3 things:

1. Stopped drinking almost entirely
2. Ate carefully balanced meals, counting calories somewhat obsessively
3. Walked to and from work, roughly 5-6 miles a day on average.

Walking can be remarkably good exercise. I know it's difficult in cold weather, but you'd be surprised at what exercise you can get in. Not everyone is meant for running, though admittedly, I didn't think I was until I found that I'd lost a significant amount of weight and the walking no longer felt like much of a challenge.

I know all too well how one glass of wine can turn into a bottle. For me, the dry January is not so much about tee-totaling so much as it is about setting a baseline and then seeing what I can allow without deviating too much from that baseline.
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